Kidney...Transplant

Jul. 22nd, 2025 10:00 am
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Last night I finally used the bath bomb Husboo gifted me as a birthday present three years ago. It was the first time we used the tub in the new place, and it struck me that it's in the *exact* place Cleveland's bathtub is in Family Guy. It might have been a high thought, but I couldn't shake the image of me falling out of the house going "No no no no nooooooo!" It still makes me chuckle. :)

Honestly? Wow. I felt so much more relaxed stepping out of the tub, my skin felt rejuvenated, and I'm two more episodes down in my Paradise re-watch. I have another bath bomb from the same gift set, and I'm really looking forward to using it. The iPad and the Wonderboom are a potent combo in the alcove that holds the faucet, and if I get one of those bath-tub trays I could easily see myself going for a soak at least twice a month. 

I spoke with my manager yesterday and she made me feel a lot better about the situation. When it happened, I stepped back to look at my life and felt like such a loser. Here I am in my mid-40s with no solid career path to speak of, no savings, a job that barely pays the bills, with old ratty clothes and poor grooming habits. I don't have a degree and it really feels too late for me on that, so the best I can do is some kind of supplemental education that might help my network make a case for me somewhere. I'm always going to be making the lowest wages in the household; at worst, I'll be relying on the charity of my community. It wasn't a great feeling.

But she helped shift my perspective a bit. This wasn't an indictment of my work ethic or effectiveness, and the passion with which she jumped into helping me land somewhere else was grounding on its own. She heard about a position in the Sunnyvale office opening soon and encouraged me to speak to the hiring manager ASAP, so I did. They're looking for a Metrology Calibration Tech to work out of the lab there; it'd take me out of the house five days a week, but that's not the worst thing as long as the pay was good. I think I hit it off with him fairly well, and he liked that I have the mindset for the work being an internal applicant. There are knowledge gaps, of course, but my manager forwarded training materials that I can study ahead of applying and interviewing. She also gave me her personal email address so we can go over my resume and wants to set up a weekly meeting to track our progress. It's surprising to get this kind of help so quickly from someone who had to fire me, though I suppose I've had enough good managers at this point I really shouldn't be.

Someone in the fandom who knows me from my 2 Sense days popped up with a list of open positions at a waste management company; a colleague from Udacity forwarded me a job at an AI tech company; an old fandom friend forwarded me a position as a Library Page for Santa Clara, having remembered how much I loved them. I'm always surprised that there are so many people willing to rally around me in times of trouble, but again -- I've had so many good friends at this point I really shouldn't be.

I'm not out of the woods, but I feel like I've gotten my bearings at least. I would like the Calibration Tech position (as long as the pay is right), so I think I'll give that a good try. Ditto for the Library Page position. I think I'll pass on the AI tech company though, for multiple reasons.

Tonight I'll be putting together my 2025 Job Application Tracker tonight and working on the Unlicensed Adventures game. The gang is working their way through a "dungeon" of sorts full of mind flayers and for some reason they keep getting their asses kicked. >.> I'd like to offer a way for the group to get some much-needed story, but that's very tricky with this group. They have little tolerance for untrustworthy behavior, but I'd really like to see if they could make an alliance of convenience with a bad guy to stop something bad from happening. We'll see how it goes. 

Kidney Punch

Jul. 21st, 2025 03:00 pm
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I got notice of being laid off last Thursday. The company is eliminating my position to create new ones that do the same work in Mexico for a fraction of the labor cost. My last day is October 24th, and if I'm still employed in good standing with the company by then I'm entitled to eight weeks' severance. Basically, I run out of money on Christmas Eve if I don't find another job.

It was a pretty big shock. I had been anticipating a smaller-than-desired pay raise based on what I had heard from a few friends (they had both received 1 - 1.5%), with a possible best-case-scenario that my pay was being raised to match what my colleagues were making. Instead, they cut five people from QA and QC after cutting six people or so earlier this year.

And they've made no secret of staffing the office in Mexico with reconfigured positions that do what we do, only with significantly lower labor. It's a really shitty way to lose a job; I can't fault the folks in Mexico for doing the same thing for lower costs, and I can't fault my managers who are only doing what they're told while being forced to absorb the immediate blowback. Still, it's radicalizing to know you could do your best work for less than you're worth and still be told you don't deserve the pay you get.

I went numb at the meeting where I was told, and cried a lot Thursday evening. I barely got anything done on Friday; just doing the work would set off a fresh wave of tears and I'd have to go somewhere else to collect myself all over again. I'm still emotionally fragile today, but I'm also in a headspace where the most important thing is to keep it moving. I have to absorb the blow and find another job somewhere, and being depressed isn't going to get that done. I guess being an adult is learning that the world doesn't stop when you feel like you can't go on and it's important to give the impression of being well-adjusted even when you're all but dead inside.

I'm trying to be more honest about my mental state here, but I also realize how important it is to manage my own emotional state. I...don't think I can fall apart the way I want to. There's no one to pick up the slack.

Falling apart doesn't really make the situation better, either. I'm just tired of having to eat shit and smile about it. Especially since everything happening this year feels like it's geared toward push people like me out of society completely. I don't have many credentials or certifications or degrees, but I'm pretty good lubricant for any team I find myself in. There are all these ways that I work to make things run more smoothly and that's hard to quantify on paper. Now that local tech companies are abandoning any pretense of DEI and also purging workers like crazy, any possible safe haven is flushed with better-qualified, younger candidates with fewer personal boundaries around work-life balance. It's going to be really, really hard finding something that pays enough for me to feel OK about working there.

Other friends I've known a long time, slightly older than I am, have been out of work for months without finding something. There are so many open positions for garbage pay that senior-level workers are applying for just because the market's that brutal. And when you add the impossibility of beating AI screeners so your resume can be seen by a human being, it...feels like I might never find work again.

But what else can I do but try? What else can I do but pretend things will be OK and I'll land on my feet somehow? If I give in to the sense of doom in my heart, I might as well disappear entirely. I can't do that, so trying it is.

Still, it would be nice if it felt like society wasn't forcing me to circle the drain so billionaires could make impossible amounts of money even more easily.

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